Change of perspective
Can you have it all?.....
We live in an era where we are constantly told, you can have it all in life. Especially by social media influencers. By having it all, the reference is normally towards career, family/love, nice house and all the desired comforts. While its true to some extent, but, does the one who has it all realise that they “have it all”? After all they have achieved in life, are they in a position of contentment? Or are they looking for the next best thing? Those who are on a quest to fulfil their goals, is the focus solely on the goal or gratitude for the goals already achieved?
While there are people out there who have it all, there are people who don’t and are maybe feeling frustrated, the one pursuing a career goal has hit an impasse, the one trying to find love is experiencing dating burnout, someone trying to buy a house is grappling with rising cost of living and struggling to save. Couples trying to start a family are struggling with fertility treatments. Whilst there is talk about using manifestation to achieve your goals, which is great because one should manifest and work towards their goals and dreams, but at the same time, it is also important that one does not become narrow in their view.
Whilst on your journey, it is good to keep an open mind and have the propensity to adjust your perspective. Firstly, one should take a step back and take inventory of what they have achieved already and remember to celebrate what you already have. This is because tomorrow is not promised and neither is the goal you are pursuing. The views you see while climbing a mountain are still beautiful.
When you get to the top of the mountain, you may realise its the bottom of another one. Your goals may change when you adjust your perspective. Life is a peculiar journey and sometimes you think you want something and are heading in a specific direction, but you end up at cross roads that could change the course of your journey.
The promotion you were working towards which you thought would be your ultimate career goal and dream but it somehow does not happen and you understandably become morose and disheartened. However, life introduces a twist and you end up in a totally different place doing something you never imagined and it turns out to be the best thing that has ever happened to you.
A couple trying to have children may end up adopting or fostering children who would in turn end up loving them more than their own children could have. Someone trying to buy a house may realise owning a property is not for them instead they decide to save and invest and end up with sizeable returns that allows them to perhaps start a business or retire early. The one trying to date may just step back and work on themselves and end up naturally attracting their person.
Ultimately, you can have it all, it may or may not look like what you imagined but rest assured it will be what you need. In the meantime, be grateful for what you have achieved and don’t forget to give yourself credit.
Merry Christmas and a Happy New year!
A great essay that challenges the idea of 'having it all,' showing how true fulfillment comes from gratitude. Instead of chasing societal expectations, it’s about appreciating what we have and finding meaning in life’s unexpected twists. It reminds us to focus on the metrics we choose for ourselves, thanks Bansi.
Generally, the nature of ambition is to always be looking forward to the next thing. So, yes, we must be conscious enough to look behind, sideways, and ahead. It's hard to have everything; it's usually just tradeoffs. However, it can be an equilibrium we find contentment in.